Two sides of one conversation

Dr Romey teaches mixed rooms on purpose. Menopause stops being a private burden the moment everyone in the room shares the same basic knowledge.

For women navigating perimenopause and menopause

Name what’s happening. Track symptoms for a few weeks. Patterns turn a vague sense of “losing it” into concrete, addressable facts.
Know your options. From sleep and strength training to hormone therapy, effective help exists. Take your notes to a clinician who takes menopause seriously; you’re allowed to ask for one who does.
You choose what to share. Disclosure at work is yours to decide. Adjustments (temperature, flexibility, meeting design) can often be requested without a medical explanation.
Don’t resign to the fog. Major career decisions made at the worst symptomatic point are decisions made with incomplete information. Treat first, decide later.

For men, colleagues, and managers: this page is for you too

Learn the basics so she doesn’t have to teach them. Ten minutes of understanding removes the most exhausting part: explaining yourself while you’re struggling.
Make adjustments boring. Desk fans, flexible hours, a camera turned off, a rescheduled 8 a.m.: treat them like any other equipment request, not a favour, and judge output rather than optics.
Managers: open the door once, generally. Mention menopause in the same breath as other health-and-wellbeing topics. You’ll never know how many quiet resignations that prevents.

Say: “Is there anything that would make work easier right now? Whatever it is, it stays between us.”

Don’t say: anything that makes it the punchline. The jokes are exactly why nobody asks for help.

Bring this conversation to your workplace